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اشتباهات انسان در ابتدا رهگذرند، سپس میهمان می شوند و بعد صاحبخانه

جمعه 20 مرداد 1391  09:28 ق.ظ

نوع مطلب :رفتار درمانی ،

آیا شنیده اید که می گویند شکست مقدمه پیروزی است؟ یا برای رسیدن به پیروزی باید شکست را تجربه کرد؟ به نظر شما همان که انسان در راه رسیدن به هدفش شکستی را تجربه کند، طلسم شکسته می شود؟ و از آن زمان به بعد او راه هموارتری برای رسیدن به خواسته اش درپیش خواهد داشت؟ یا اینکه رازی در دل آن شکست نهفته است و تا زمانی که کشف نگردد وضعیت به همان منوال خواهد بود؟


انسان های موفق زمانی که در کاری موفق نمی شوند یا اصطلاحا شکست می خورند‌، با جدیت تمام به کشف نقاط ضعف خود می پردارند و بعد از  شناسایی آنها با بررسی و تحلیل نسبت به برطرف کردنشان می کوشند.

اصولا "شکست موفق" زمانی است که ما به اشتباه خود پی ببریم و در صدد رفع آن بکوشیم. اشتباهات یا نقاط ضعف اغلب مواقع در زمانی که منجر به شکست می شوند، نمایان شده و بر ما آشکار می شوند، آن وقت با بررسی و اندیشدن تدابیر لازم می توان آن ها را از بین برد. اما برخی اوقات پیش می آید که ما بدون آنکه متوجه علت شویم شکست می خوریم. معمولا در این مواقع ما به دنبال کسی یا چیزی هستیم تا او را مقصر بدانیم یا این که در نهایت یقین می یابیم که از بدشانسی ما و خوش اقبالی دیگران این اتفاق افتاده است.

اما واقعیت در این است که مشکل در وجود خود ما نهفته است و آن قدر به ما نزدیک شده که به عنوان یک عادت یا ویژگی در ما به استتار رسیده است. آن را نمی بینیم، احساس نمی کنیم و از وجود آن کاملا بی خبریم.

مانند  مرد متوقعی که همسرش را به خاطر داشتن توقعات بسیار از خود راند، هیچ گاه نتوانست به این نتیجه برسد که آدم پرتوقعی بوده و همین امر موجب متارکه همسر او شده است.

گاهی پیش می آید که بعضی از اشتباهات و نقاط ضعف در نظر ما پنهان می مانند و به صورت مخفیانه(آن طور که ما متوجه نمی شویم) موجب تخریب شخصیت و موقعیت ما می شوند. ما کم و بیش با اثرات آن مواجه می شویم اما بازهم متوجه نمی شویم که چه چیز موجب این عواقب می شود. اما افراد واقع گرا این نشانه ها و اثرات را به سرعت درک می کنند و از آنها به نفع خود استفاده می کنند، در واقع قبل از اینکه آن اشتباه "صاحبخانه" شود از وجود خود بیرونش می کنند. این نشانه ها به هر صورتی می تواند باشد. در قالب یک انتقاد، عکس العمل رفتاری، نتیجه عملکرد، اتفاقات بدی که در زندگی فرد رخ می دهد، حوادث و خیلی چیزهای دیگر. مهم این است که ما هوشیار باشیم و علت ها را برحسب اتفاق و شانس نشماریم و سعی کنیم تا آن شکست یا پیش آمد دوباره تکرار نشود.

بله دوباره تکرار نشود!! قدیمی ها می گویند آزموده را آزمودن خطاست. وقتی اتفاق ناخوشایندی برای ما رخ می دهد حتما علتی دارد. اگر می خواهید دوباره آن اتفاق بد برای شما تکرار نشود تنها یک راه دارید و آن این است که اشتباه را در وجود خود پیدا کنید. وقتی کاری را انجام می دهید که در آن مشکلی پیش می آید، حتی اگر مقصر اصلی شما نباشید بازهم مقصرید که اجازه داده اید آن مشکل  به کاری که شما  در انجامش شریک بوده اید صدمه بزند. پس ابتدا باید نقطه ضعف خود را پیدا کنید. اگر مقصر خودتان هستید، باید به دنبال رفع نقطه ضعف و اشتباه خود باشید. اما اگر اشتباه از شخص یا چیز دیگری است در درجه اول شما محکوم به این هستید که چرا اعتماد بیش از حد داشته اید و احتمالات را گوش زد نکرده اید یا تدابیر لازم جهت اشتباهات دیگران یا نقص وسایل را مد نظر نداشته اید.

برای رسیدن به موفقیت بهترین راه حرکت در مسیر اهداف است، شکستها مانند موانع نامرعی در راه می مانند که با ممارست و تلاش فراوان می توان  آن ها را پیدا کرد و از بین برد. مهم این است که شما با نگاه واقع بینانه به دنبال کشف و رفع واقعی مشکلات باشید.

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